What To Do When The One You Love Says They No Longer Love You, nor Wants To Be With You.

Hello All!,

I hope you're having a super fantastic day! So today, I want to discuss What to do when the one you love says they no longer love you , nor wants to be with you anymore. I mentioned on facebook that I would be discussing this topic and I received many comments both publicly and privately.
    There are many reasons as to why a companion would make this decision and declarative statement. It's not so much that positioning I want to focus on but rather, what is one to do when what seems like their whole world shifts or changes. For some it is a well discussed, thought out mutual decision. For others it's a feeling or inclination that they "knew it was coming". However, for others they didn't see "it" coming at all. Having someone you loved or once loved so dearly reject  you can be one of the most difficult experiences to face. It leaves more questions than answers, an emotional pain that almost seems unbearable, and a desire to pick up the pieces to "normalcy" as quickly as possible. So what is one to do? First know that all hope is not lost! Allow yourself to be surrounded and loved on by people who truly and genuinely care about you. During this time you will need support. I can personally say time does heal all wounds (if you allow it). You have to make the decision to be healed; yes healing is a choice. You have to forgive the one you feel hurt and betrayed by. This process does take time. A clear sign that you are not bitter towards this person is when you don't cringe when they are around, you're not vindictive when it comes to them and you truly want the best for them regardless of your situation with them. Yes, this step will take time. Now, if you're wanting me to say reconciliation is in the air, then I will not say it :-) but what I will say is the possiblity of reconcialtion is. But I would encourage one to assess the relationship. Seek to discover where you might have contributed to the new found status of the relationship. Discover who you are outside of that relationship. Depending on how long you were with that person, your identity might be so wrapped up into them that self discovery and discovery in the purpose and reasoning the creator, created you in the first place might be necessary. Life is such a beautiful and joyous thing, trust me you can live, love and laugh again! There are SO many things I could highlight or discuss when it comes to this topic but I would sum it up here:
1. A strong spiritual life, connecting to my energy source Yeshua aided me in becoming strengthend during challenging times. I became more resilient, more empowered.
2. Supportive family and freinds. A positive support group is vital, you'll have enough "going on" during this time, avoid negative people,places and things.
3. Forgiveness, it is one of the most important steps! It is possible, no matter how hurt you may feel. *read my post here on this blog " The Choice to Forgive", it will help.
4. Self- discovery ( who are you and why are you here?) This step also ties into step 1. Connect to the creator. Discover more about yourself! Live!!! This is not the end all be all, trust me it's not. No matter how it looks now if you tap into your purpose for existence (and we all have one) you will have the most joyous, fulfilling, confident life!! Allow this situation and any obstacle you face to propel you further into greatness and success, not defeat! I'm telling you, you can live empowered!!!!
5. New hobby, try something new, experience life! You'll never know what opportunities are awaiting for you if you don't take the first step and experience something new and positive.
6.New makeover/hairstyle, why not? I mean jazzing things up will build confidence, go ahead :-) why not.
7. Time, allow yourself time. This is not an over-night process. Have the mindset of being intentional on being the best you possible and you'll get there.

  I hope this helps!!! In this life we will face many challenges. It's how we handle those challenges that determines the results we will experience in life! Continue to have a wonderful day, I would like to leave you with these words of empowerment and support that helps me during difficult times: I can acheive greatness in my/the energy source Yeshua that enhances my awareness and enlightens me to strength around me. I was created with a dynamic purpose and I receive that knowledge. I will seek out those things that are lovely, joyful, peaceful, kind, forgiving, faithful, gentle, good and that of self-control. I will not live subject to oppressive thoughts and behaviors, I will live empowered and enlightened!!! Continue to shine!xoxo
                                                                                                  
                                                                                                                 Stay Calm & Sparkle,
                                                                                                                 Niki Flow